You’re not good enough.
You don’t have the qualifications we need.
You don’t treat me like he/she treats me- I can do better than you.
You don’t have enough experience.
There’s SO many ways we’re told why we can’t do something, that we didn’t get the job, why someone doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore, why we’ll never amount to something “big.” We don’t like being told no. Most of the time it’s hard because it is something we want and we hear the words that we don’t want to hear- that it’s not going to happen. No matter what we say or do, that it’s not going to make a difference in the decision.
Sometimes we do all we can and it still isn’t good enough. BUT. It is good enough. That’s what we forget to realize. We start looking at ourselves as the world does and actually start to believe what everyone else says. How awful is that?
We forget that we’re the person we’re supposed to be at this very moment. That God’s timing is perfect and we’re so much more than good enough. In His eyes, we are perfect. All of our flaws, all of our mistakes, whatever we think we’re lacking- every ounce of who we are is perfect to Him. The world might see us as lacking, but in reality, we have everything we need. The characteristics, the qualifications we need to succeed and be who we’re supposed to be. God wouldn’t put us somewhere with someone or doing something without equipping us with everything that we need to carry it out.
One time a professor told me that I wasn’t going to make it in what I was studying. It threw me into a whirlwind because well that was my major and it was the middle of my junior year so how was I supposed to do anything about it now? I let that control so much of my emotions for awhile- I let myself believe her. But now that I look back at it, how could I fall into that idea when she knew so little about me? She saw me in class for maybe 3 hours most a week, and that was it. She knew nothing about me outside the classroom. But still, I let myself feel inferior. How easy is it for us to get caught up in something like that and to convince ourselves that we aren’t good enough. Pretty easy I think.
What about when we get the email saying that we didn’t get the job we applied for.. That they’ve decided to pursue other applicants. Let me tell you, I’ve gotten plenty of those. Plenty to last me quite awhile. (I actually just got one as I wrote this). Do I let that get me down and discouraged? Absolutely not. Yeah, it stinks that I might not have gotten something I wanted, but that just means that God’s telling me: “No. Not right now. I’ve got something better for you up the road. Just be patient, have faith, and wait for it. It might not come today, next week or next month… but it will come. Trust me.” And when you do finally find the job that He created you for, you’ll look back and be so glad that you waited, that you didn’t settle for anything less. It’s tough, believe me, I know.. but I know 110% that it’ll be worth it. Worth every rejection email, worth every interview, worth every long application process that you’ve gone through. He’s created you for a special purpose, and He won’t let it not happen. He’ll bring you to it and He’ll get you through the times that you sit and wonder if you’ll ever find your “dream job.”
How many times have you been in a relationship and it ended- unexpected, mutually.. either way, it’s usually not a fun place to be in. It can leave us feeling sad, lost, and hurt. It might be the timing, it might be feelings faded, there might be another person in the picture. It hurts and it’s the worst feeling in the world knowing that there’s nothing you can do to change his or her mind. That might cause us to feel not good enough and send us into a bad place for the future. If we take the words someone says to us and replay them in our minds enough- they start to take root in us. We have to know that no matter what, no matter how wrong or right a relationship is, that we’re precious. Everyone has feelings and we have to remember that.
When you feel disheartened by a failed relationship, it’s another no from God. While we might not want Him to tell us no- because we believed that this person was right for us- we have to trust Him. It might not happen right now, but you never know. Maybe in the future things will work out. If not, He’s taking that person out of your life right now for a reason. There’s someone else out there that He created just for you and that person is going to be so much better than you could have ever dreamed up. In the mean time, don’t forget your worth. You’re precious and you’re loved infinitely. You’re beautiful and you’re handsome and you’re perfect. Don’t ever let anyone’s lack of feelings for you make you feel anything less because you are a gem. And you’re cherished. So much.
Next time you’re declined for some reason, look at it from a different perspective. Look at it with excitement and optimism because that wasn’t the right opportunity or person for you. God has something else planned for you, and it’s going to be the right thing for you. It might be a long path with lots of waiting, but just keep walking and don't lose hope. It’s hard to be patient sometimes, sometimes I just wish I could have what I’ve been praying for, but I remind myself that I must have patience. That when the time is right, God will reveal to me what He has planned and it will fall into place.
No more sorrow, no more tears. Let’s look at no as a way to be eager- to open our hearts and have faith that whatever we’re wishing and wanting for is going to be SO much better than we imagined.